All of optimism work by Seligman PhD and self psychology work by (emotional intelligence work by Daniel Goleman find that what a child is told and how they are told things shape their ideas of themselves and their world. I am outraged for his students. Some parents actually defended his cruel behavior but refused to be interviewed. I am blogging on this issue to ask every parent to tell their child they are special, loved and if they do wrong, it is a bad behavior that needs correcting. Please write happy notes to your kids and leave them on the kitchen table. You will make a lifetime memory that they will recount to everyone they know years later. Every message to a child counts, how you say things, when you say them and why you say them counts. Many of my adult clients complain adults in their life either didnt explain things or were cruel in their written/oral messages.